Women..

   I believe in equality of the sexes. I know where I am weaker and where I am strong. I know my capabilities and my shortcomings...and I am well aware of that of the other sex. Why then is it so difficult as a society to understand this? As I grow older I am horrified by the injustices we dole out to each other. Women everywhere suffer so much...in developed and underdeveloped countries. I know I grew up in a family where a girl and boy were equal....family friends thought the same. I went to a all girls school and then the shock in university where you have people from all different backgrounds and cultures coming together. I always had (mostly) lousy boyfriends...they thought sooo differently from what I thought. I could not many times believe they could think like that about women.  I had to , understand why, how, and what made them think that way. Where in this day and age do they think girls should be virgins? or there is one rule for boys and another that applies to girls? a man can be out drinking alone but not a women? a man can have many girlfriends but not a women? why not? was what I always asked...you know what I was told by these boyfriends? because women are weaker....because emotionally we cannot handle it. Well you can guess many times; how my relationships ended. lol! Time and again my parents told me they(the boys) will never understand me and I will never understand them. I need to find a like minded man. Someone more evolved in India. That's a rare gem. A man not threatened by a girl who is independent, speaks her mind and fearless .
              I love psychology plus I have a slightly laid back outlook to life. I love observing people and like to know why they behave the way they do; most people think I am cold and a little aloof but it's not true, I am very very sensitive. I have because of my parents been involved in programs for orphanages, old age homes, education of poor children. What I noticed time and again was that the girl child was not wanted -why?! The women who did not want them said that they have a really tough life in India so they prefer to abort,  abandon them instead of bringing them up. How can a woman be biased toward her own sex? how can she teach her son that a woman is evil, cunning?? Why?? Does she not value her own self? does she not see how strong she is? she gives birth? that is by itself a strong thing to do.Then she has the responsibility to educate and she has the strength to change society. Education is not just sending your child to school but helping him/her think in a broader way...in a way that can make a positive change to society. The moral education...the principals and values..these are learnt at home not at school or with friends. I had so many educated - uneducated friends it was not funny. The task of a family is to make society better. Easier for all to live. By the time the 'boys' - who is so arrogant and thinks one rule applies to men and another to woman...that woman are 2nd class citizens.. - grows up and realises how awful this society is- Is his little girl going to part of THIS? With other men like him?! it's too late...and then he does not want a girl, because life will be too tough on her. Duh?!! so change! I don't see the change in any way even with people of my generation in India.
   Women!! wake up and see how unique you are! You are so strong that men in various times in history have been frightened of you...they have done atrocious things to the fairer sex. Don't you see it's in your power to change that. I don't believe in hating or fighting men. I just think we have different strenghts. I never had to prove my strong side to anyone- It's just there. There is a time and place for everything. Men and women have to livee in harmony, compliment each other. Not try to be a super women. Women have to stop trying to prove things. That is empowering. Find your essence, your strength. Live with a partner who respects you and try to support each other. This is important.We live once. Just once we can enjoy life. Just once we get a chance to change things. To make the future better for all humans.Baby Girls don't have to be aborted, killed, sold, thrown in dustbins, beaten, abused....Please make a change!!